Training the Young Horse: Building Confidence Before Competition

Peter Gray’s Philosophy on Development and Patience

Peter Gray’s approach to training young horses is deeply rooted in patience, perspective, and responsibility. Growing up in Bermuda, galloping ponies through sand dunes and competing at just a handful of shows each year, Gray developed a mindset that prioritized horsemanship over pressure.

Pony Club played a major role in shaping his foundation, as did an upbringing where it was “never the horse’s fault.” One of his most impactful beliefs is that knowledge is passed down, and how we train reflects who taught us.

Gray compares riding a young horse to meeting someone for coffee — casual, relaxed, and without pressure. You wouldn’t expect a full commitment immediately, and you shouldn’t expect it from a young horse either. Over time, that relationship becomes like an “old married couple,” built on trust and understanding.

A correct training pathway means that every day, every week, and every month, the horse approves. You never ask for something beyond the horse’s mental capacity. Because of this, when Gray takes a horse to a show, the horse doesn’t feel pressure — it has never experienced pressure at home.

He strongly believes it is better to move up a level a year or two late rather than one day too early. In today’s sport, we often show too much and train too little. For four-year-olds especially, Gray advocates taking them out as non-competes, exposing them to the world without expectations. If there’s a birthday party in the neighborhood, take the horse. Let them see life before adding the stress of competition. He also emphasized that moving up too early and having a horse loose confidence can set a partnership back by a year; his recommendation is to over-prepare for the move-up for optimal chances at success. 

Gray also discussed the shift in eventing after the removal of the long format, which led eventers to search for the same type of modern sport horse as jumpers and dressage riders. While scope and movement are emphasized, he cautions that genetics matter deeply, and America still lags behind Europe in breeding development. The dream event horse blends blood, bravery, and durability — and that starts long before the first show.